Thanks to my son, whom I am absolutely grateful for, I have come to realize that I have no type of circle, square, nor triangle of people whom I can call REAL friends.
Originally from Long Island, NY now residing in Fort Lauderdale, FL I used to live the fast life before my son arrived. I was a full-time student, working two sometimes three jobs, and going clubbing almost every weekend. I thought I had all the friends I needed.
Once I stopped going out, due to my pregnancy, everything slowly started to change. The girls, I used to party and have sleepovers with, soon became memories. I understood that I no longer “shared the same interest” with them but one has a child of her own. I would’ve hoped the she, out of anybody, would be the main person to know what I was going through. Unfortunately, I received no phone calls, no hit ups, NOTHING. Not even a “Congratulations”. I decided to ignore the facts and still extend the invitation to my baby shower. Out of ALL my “friends” who received an invite, only two showed up. That was when my eyes really opened up and I began to see the truth for what it was.
My immediate family was still living in NY, therefore I was alone… just me… my boyfriend… and our soon-to-be bundle of joy. I had NO idea what to expect nor how to handle my pregnancy and my boyfriend was clueless. I was definitely the epitome of a H.A.M. (Hot Ass Mess).
On Friday, April 27th 2012 at 8:26am, I was blessed with a healthy, 6lb, 10oz, 21in baby boy named Aizayah James. That morning began the BEST day of my life and I became a Mother! I can never describe the feeling of having someone whose life depends on you so much on. Who needs friends when I have all I need right here laying in my arms. My whole world now revolved around my little boy.
As days, weeks, and months swiftly passed up by. I started to miss that fact of having friends. My son was getting big enough for someone to babysit but I had no one to go anywhere or do anything with. My boyfriend grew tired of me wanting to do everything and go everywhere with him. “I do have a life and friends of my own you know,” he said to me “you seriously need to find some friends of your own and not no B.S. friends but some real genuine friends”. Pahaa yea right, easier said than done. But I agreed, and that is how the birth of The Real MILFs came to be.
So who needs friends you ask?
And I know there’s some Mommas out there who need some real genuine Momma friends too!